Funeral etiquette

The beautiful matriarch of a wonderful family I knew growing up passed last week. She had been struggling with cancer and, as a woman of faith, was ready to go. The services were held in the Catholic church in Brentwood where she had been a member all of her adult life. Her five grown childrenContinue reading “Funeral etiquette”

Everyday aches & pains

Last week I had one of those bugs that didn’t fall neatly into a category. I wasn’t coughing or sneezing or throwing up. I didn’t have a fever. But I had body aches and a tension headache that made it hard to imagine that life would ever again be a source of comfort and joy.Continue reading “Everyday aches & pains”

Real and present danger

A few summers ago, when my son Graham was interning at a local newspaper, he began subscribing to the police scanner newsfeeds to track developing stories. I thought it was kind of creepy. From time to time he’d send me updates about shootings near our house; nothing stops the rhythm of the day like theContinue reading “Real and present danger”

Listen

We hear this word a lot. We don’t heed its call much, but we sure hear it— probably because we do it so poorly. I think we’re bad at listening because we live in a culture where a standard news or talk show format features four people talking over each other from a list ofContinue reading “Listen”

Ban the backyard

There is a common myth in America that what a happy family needs most is a Big Backyard. (This is similar to the myth that happiness increases in direct proportion to square footage, but that’s a post for another time). Those who do not live in homes at all, or live in homes with littleContinue reading “Ban the backyard”