Communication vs. chatter

Still the best wisdom I know about how to find communication balance in a social media world.

heather choate davis's avatarHeather Choate Davis

I chose for my final 5:45 workshop the theme of Social Networking: Opportunity or Dependency and found myself once again surrounded by twenty-somethings. The Brother who led was delightful and engaging and made so many thoughtful points and with absolutely no judgement that I, and the young people, were utterly enthralled. He even had a hand-out! On it were several points that warrant reposting:

“93% of communication is non-verbal.”

“There is a human limit to the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships— on the Dunbar scale, it’s 150.”

“If everything is important, nothing is important.”

At this point he invited everyone to turn on their phones and leave them on for the rest of the class. He then called up two volunteers and handed each of them badminton racquets and a birdy. He started by positioning them very far away, say, thirty feet, and invited…

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Pentecost meet Woodstock

heather choate davis's avatarHeather Choate Davis

taize crowd:Pentecost“When the day of Pentecost came, all the believers were gathered together in on place. Suddenly there was a noise from the sky which sounded like a strong wind blowing, and it filled the whole house where they were sitting. They they saw what looked like tongues of fire which spread out and touched each person there. They were all filled with the Holy Spirit and began to talk in other languages, as the Spirit enabled the to speak” (Acts 2:1-4)

When we had first planned the trip to Taize and I had discovered that we would be there for Pentecost — my favorite church holiday— I was overwhelmed with anticipation! Oh the new depths of meaning and divine experience that awaited! Then I stepped outside my door and quickly realized that there was a significant downside to seeking the gift of the Holy Spirit with 6000 other people. My…

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Jesus, the name of God (yikes!)

To celebrate the three year anniversary of my pilgrimage to Taize, I’m going to be reblogging some of the best of in the series.

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I don’t know what it’s like where you live, but in L.A. it’s much safer to drop the F-bomb than the J-word in mixed company. If you’re in the South— Mississippi, Alabama, Texas— droppin’ Jesus’s name is no more controversial than ordering a Coca-Cola, but in the major coastal cities of the U.S., it simply isn’t done: say the name Jesus at a bar-b-que in West L.A. and be ready to be talked about later, and not kindly, with the emphasis being on your intelligence and lack thereof. Why? You could say Mohammed or Buddha or Wicca Master all day long and no one would bat an eye. What is it about the name of Jesus that is so shocking, so unnerving, so divisive?

On Friday morning, Br. John continued his talk on the name of God, speaking now, specifically, of Jesus Christ. He began to identify Him by his…

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This is Water


If you’ve never seen this video created to underscore David Foster Wallace’s remarkable words to graduates, I highly recommend it. “This is Water” speaks to the reality we all share and how we may choose— or feel led— to move through it. Although he speaks from a secular point of view, he uses the word “sacred.” For some things there is simply no other word.

Lovely Rheta

We lost someone dear last night. A woman whose faith came down through her family, through generations, and shone out through her with a twinkle that could not be mistaken for anything else. I loved Rheta Stoppel, and I will miss her dearly. We first became close almost twenty years ago, at one of those mission/vision workshops that churches are so fond of and which, invariably, lead nowhere. I was at a table with her and a few others when the subject of heaven came up. I don’t remember what she had said that led my jaw to drop but I do recall my words, “Are you telling me that you were raised to believe that only LC-MS Lutherans would go to Heaven.” I was new to the church and to the faith, but I knew that would not be a lesson I’d be passing on to my kids. Rheta smiled as if just then realizing what she had said and what she’d been taught. “That’s what I was taught” she said. I cannot say what she went to heaven ultimately believing, but what I witnessed in her day in and day out was a demonstrable confidence in the words of St. Paul, that God desired “all people to be saved.” And she showed that by loving people and caring tangibly about what they loved—mainly, their children— in her work for and/or behind the scenes at Venice Lutheran School. Every time I saw her, she would make a point of sharing some observation about Graham or Remy, some little detail of the day that no one else would have observed, but which made my heart sing. I have no doubt she did this for hundreds of moms and dads, loving who they loved, so that they may, in their time, come to love who she loved: Jesus Christ.  “In Him we live, and move, and have our being; as certain even of your own poets have said, for we are also his offspring.” (Acts 17:28)  If you have ever attended a Fall Festival at First Lutheran Church of Venice, you have met Rheta. She would have been wearing a festive orange plaid shirt covered with pumpkin and spider and scarecrow pins. She and her lifetime friend, Suzie Dean, sold the tickets so you could play games or eat or buy things from the bake sale, which she always made goodies for. Rheta knew that the ticket to heaven was the grace of God, and that it was a gift to all who did not refuse it. If she were here today I think she’d say to all those families who weren’t yet so sure about what to make of the whole faith thing: “Today if you hear His voice, do not harden your hearts.” (Hebrews 3:15)  Today, my heart is a puddle as I thank God for Rheta, for her life, her witness, the strength of her convictions, her tireless service, and the twinkle in her eye. I have no doubt she’s with Him now, and they’re enjoying some really good dessert.